Another trend that’s once again making dating messy.
It seems that off-putting dating trends are continually emerging for singles to be aware of as they navigate today’s complex digital dating world — and “zip coding” seems to be the latest one.
While it might sound self-explanatory compared to its trend counterparts like “shrekking” and “bio-baiting,” to give some context — zip coding can mean one of two things.
It’s either when singles who are swiping on dating apps limit their options to a certain mile radius to only attract potential suitors in a certain zip code — something that could limit their options, but this definition isn’t really doing anyone any harm.
Or swipers could take this approach when they’re looking to attract a wealthy match who lives in a desirable neighborhood.
However, zip coding can get toxic when it refers to people who exclusively date someone who lives nearby — same town or even same state — but then, consider themselves single when they go outside of that area.
It’s truly the definition of having your cake and eating it, too.
It’s hard to detect if your significant other is partaking in this trend, but asking questions and having difficult conversations can reveal if their intentions are genuine — or if they’re just dating you out of convenience.
As disappointing as this trend might be, it doesn’t entirely come as a surprise, considering that fewer young adults are looking to settle down these days.
And those that are, are sticking to their guns and setting firm boundaries — like not sleeping with someone until they’re in a committed relationship.
Mandana Zarghami and Kayla Caputo are two 29-year-old women who are both on celibate journeys — but not for the reason you’d expect.
They’re simply over dating apps and hookup culture, which they feel have ruined intimacy for Gen Z and millennials.
“Hookup culture doesn’t benefit women in any way — it only benefits the man,” Zarghami told The Post.
“I’m not here to judge, but at the same time, it [hooking up] ruins the part where, when you actually find that person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, it takes away from that special, intimate moment that you have with them,” she added.
Caputo agrees.
“I feel like hookup culture has ruined dating because it almost feels like that’s the end goal. It’s like people are so trained now to just ask you to come home with them — it’s so bizarre,” she admitted to The Post, adding that sleeping with someone you are newly seeing “clouds your judgment on how you really feel about the person.”
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