Tom Schwartz has been curious about the idea of sobriety, but he isn’t ready to give up on alcohol yet — especially when it comes to his sex life.
During the Thursday, April 17, episode of Jax Taylor renamed “In the Mind of Jax Taylor” podcast, Schwartz, 42, weighed in on the recent mocktail craze, saying, “Especially with the younger generation. It’s very sober positive on TikTok but I still see people out there having fun.”
Taylor, 45, and Schwartz agreed it was a “great time to be sober.”
“It’s the best of both worlds. Back in the day, it was almost stigmatized to not drink,” Schwartz recalled. “Like you’re a dork if you don’t drink. But there are positives.”
Schwartz went on to joke, “I would still be a virgin if it wasn’t for alcohol.”
The candid commentary has become a regular thing on Taylor’s podcast. After leaving his and estranged wife Brittany Cartwright‘s “When Reality Hits” podcast, Taylor started his own venture shortly after revealing his past struggles with addiction.
“I’ve been in and out of using cocaine for awhile. I wouldn’t use it every single day. There would be months I would take off,” he explained to Us Weekly in a March cover story. “And then I would do it like a week here, maybe two times a month or three times a month. It got really bad though. When the divorce started [with my estranged wife Brittany Cartwright], I felt like I was doing it recreationally.”
Taylor highlighted his commitment to working on himself. “I had all these other issues because I’m masking loneliness,” he said. “I’m masking the texting women by doing drugs and drinking alcohol. I have all these other issues. So it’s a slow process, which is hard for me because I always look for the quick fix. This is one of those things in life that it’s not a quick fix. You have to work at it. I’m not used to that.”
He concluded: “This is not gonna work that way. That’s not how addiction, sickness and mental health works. People are like, ‘Jax, you’ve done a lot of freaking damage. Like a lot. And this is just not going to go away anymore. People have had enough.’”
Taylor’s work has included staying consistent on his podcast, which has included some surprising stories about his personal life. Taylor recently revealed that he has “faked orgasms” in the past.
“We would be having sex and I know it’s not going to happen. So I’ll stop it early and be like, ‘You know what? I really, really like you. I don’t think we should do this right now,’” he admitted earlier this month. “So it takes the pressure off me. And then they’re like, ‘Oh, that’s so sweet.’”
Taylor stood by the method, adding, “I would rather her tell her friends that, ‘He was so sweet that he wanted to wait.’ Rather than, ‘He can’t cum when he’s with me.’ That’s a little more embarrassing.”
One month prior, Taylor referred to himself as a “very late bloomer,” sharing on his podcast, “No and I grew up in a very conservative neighborhood. I don’t even think I had the sex talk with my dad. Sex wasn’t really a big thing then. I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 19.”
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