Their exes drove them up the wall — and out the door.
Women’s horror stories of moving in with their boyfriends were featured in a recent study, which concluded that three in five Americans say cohabitation doomed their relationships.
Amy relocated to Forest Hills, Queens, from Georgia to live with her significant other, but quickly realized romance was out the window.
“I thought we’d get our own apartment, explore the city and start our lives together. What I didn’t realize was that I was actually moving in with his parents in Queens,” Amy said in the study compiled by SharkNinja.
It got worse when Amy realized that her beau, Dan, could actually afford his own apartment — but just didn’t want to leave the nest.
“He just really wanted to keep living with his parents. He was incredibly lazy, and everyone secretly called him ‘Dirty Dan’ behind our backs,” she said.
“Between him being a grown man who still acted like a child and me being so far from home, the relationship ultimately didn’t work out.”
Amy did strike up an unlikely friendship with her other roommate: his mother.
“The weirdest part is that I actually became incredibly close with his mom. We even got matching tattoos. My current husband, who is very much not Dan, absolutely hates that I have a matching tattoo with my ex-boyfriend’s mother,” she said.
The survey, which polled 2,000 Americans, found that 51.7 percent cited financial stress as a major source of their arguments with their romantic partner-turned-roommate.
Sarah of the Upper West Side was blindsided when she discovered her man only moved in with her so he could pocket the extra cash he was earning on the side — while she was paying their rent.
“I thought my boyfriend had officially moved in with me. Meanwhile, he was actually trying to get money from his landlord because there was a wasp nest in his apartment,” she said.
“He convinced his landlord, and apparently his super, that he needed to vacate, and somehow this turned into him getting money to stay somewhere else. For about two months, I thought we were starting our life together in New York, and I was paying rent while he was pocketing the extra cash from his apartment.”
A whopping 45.7 percent of those surveyed said their fights with significant others revolved around household responsibilities and task division.
Raven of the East Village reached her breaking point when she realized that her partner of four years wouldn’t lift a finger around the house after they had finally moved in together.
“He genuinely believed certain chores were ‘women’s work,’ while I was also paying all the rent and watching him make zero effort to find a job,” she lamented.
She quickly came to the conclusion that the relationship had warped.
“I eventually had this horrible realization: ‘That’s my son, not my partner.’ He knew it, too. I wasn’t looking for a boyfriend I had to parent,” she said.
“Eventually, I told him it was time to go. I even gave him as much time as he needed to move out. I literally stayed in a hotel for a week while he did so. I was basically raising a grown man. I swear he sent me a gift this Mother’s Day.”
Another issue that causes domestic disputes is a misalignment of lifestyle and daily routines, 43.4 percent of those polled reported.
Myah of Williamsburg said that her ex’s routine included begging her to return to their apartment after they’d already broken up.
“I moved in with my ex three separate times. Every time, we’d live together for a month or two, break up, and I’d start hauling all my stuff out of the apartment. Then, the second I officially moved out and signed a new lease, he’d beg me to come back,” she recalled.
“And, like an idiot, I’d move back in. I did this three times before I finally realized we weren’t compatible — as a couple or as roommates. At this point, I’ve become a chronic NYC illegal subletter. The NYC Girls Roommate Facebook group actually hates to see me post.”
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