For my new sex coach, nothing is black or white.
After striking out with women for years, I knew I needed to learn the art of performing under pressure.
Naturally, I turned to a world-class authority on publicly faking it: Rachel Dolezal.
The notorious race-swapping former head of the Spokane, Washington NAACP turned OnlyFans model — who now goes by Nkechi Diallo — is pursuing her latest career turn as a certified sex coach.
The single mother of three children is currently a sex coach intern completing her coursework at the Sexology Institute online. If all goes well, the climax of her hard work will be a sex coach certification and the rescuing of my flat-lining love life.
I met her for a no-holds-barred virtual session Friday where we covered a wide range of spicy topics from “dad bod” kinks to her trip to a BDSM dungeon.
Before meeting, she had me complete a rigorous questionnaire filled with saucy questions, including how many sexual partners I’ve had and when was my last orgasm?
It was a background check far more intense than anything she experienced as an adjunct instructor of Africana Education at Eastern Washington University, which famously booted her in 2015 after it emerged she was born to white Montana parents despite claiming to be black.
As a single man in my 30s, striking up conversations with attractive women can be a daunting prospect.
Diallo told me the key is honest communication.
“Just be yourself,” she offered, without a hint of irony.
“Don’t approach someone with the goal of any particular outcome, don’t misrepresent yourself, just try to have a nice conversation that you mutually enjoy,” she advised.
When I confessed that I’ve become self-conscious of recently gaining 20 pounds, the “In Full Color” author insisted that I should feel comfortable in my own skin.
“There’s a kink for everything, a whole world of women who like the bigger-the-better belly. You can cultivate a dad bod physique,” said Diallo, who wore a sultry black dress during the session.
As a bisexual, she said she empathized with single men like me who just can’t figure women out.
“I know women can be a lot, they can be complex,” she said.
The key to any healthy sexual relationship is communication — if you’re not willing to state what you want, you may never get it.
“I’ve talked to friends married for 15 years, who never knew the other person liked to be choked a little,” she said.
As part of her 300-hour certification process, Diallo did a “field trip” to a BDSM dungeon, she said proudly.
“I learned all kinds of things about water play, scat play and bondage.”
For couples looking to spice things up, she recommended using “pervertables”— everyday household objects. “You can spank your partner with a spatula,” she suggested.
Diallo — who now identifies only as “human” and not by race, but still feels closer to black culture — said she’s been on the dating scene herself and is looking for a traditional partner.
She admitted her headline-grabbing past can make this an uphill battle.
“Being a Scorpio, we’re always known as the freaks,” she said.
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