While he was packing for a four-day bachelor trip, she was packing her hospital bag.
Influencer Mayci Neeley has divided the internet with a viral TikTok as she prepares to go into labor.
The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives star can be seen mouthing the lyrics to Sabrina Carpenter’s hit Manchild — the part that goes: “Stupid? Or is it slow? Maybe it’s useless. There’s a cuter word for it. I know: manchild!
All while her husband, Jacob, folds clothes into his suitcase behind her.
Dad’s packing… but it’s not the hospital bag
The caption reads: “POV: your husband is leaving for a four day bachelor party when you are nine months pregnant.”
Mayci adds, dryly: “No, I’m not salty at all. Thanks for asking.”
As someone who’s been pregnant, I can confirm: this isn’t one of those situations where pettiness is optional. In this instance but I think we’re well past that point.
In what world is a four-day bender a reasonable decision when your child is due any minute?
The final stretch of pregnancy isn’t just about waiting. It’s an all stations go situation.
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How hard is it to decline an invitation and just stay close to home?
In the final weeks of my pregnancy, I asked my husband to stay nearby. So that if I needed medical help, if my waters broke, or if I just needed a hug, I wouldn’t be put on standby.
Why do some dads treat labor as an optional? You were there to create the baby. You should be there to bring it into the world.
No bachelor party is more important than holding your wife’s hand while she experiences pain, discomfort and fear.
In Mayci’s case, her baby is an IVF baby. That should make the desire to be there even stronger.
The comments said what we were all thinking
The comment section of her video echoes my thoughts.
“It is insanely easy to say “sorry I’m going to have to skip this one so I don’t miss the birth of my child and supporting my wife through potentially traumatic labor”. FULL offense, your husband’s a bad partner,” one commenter criticizes.
Another warns: “if he will leave you alone for 4 days while you’re 9 months pregnant to go to a BACHELOR PARTY, imagine how many other important things he will abandon during your life together for his own enjoyment, how many major life events he is going to just think so little of?”
“The fact that he WANTS to leave you when you are that far along is a huge red flag,” a third pointed out.
While one offered brutal advice: “Go into labor, don’t tell him, don’t put his name on the birth certificate and move out with the baby. He does not respect you ma’am.”
Is the standard really this low? Is it really that hard to just show up? Bros don’t come before bubs.
Bros don’t come before bubs
This isn’t just about one husband or one TikTok. It’s about a standard that’s quietly being normalized.
This isn’t a group assignment for uni. This is parenthood.
The woman goes through nine months of physical and emotional upheaval. Nausea, back pain, ultrasounds, discomfort, fear only to hit the grand finale: childbirth.
And Jacob couldn’t be prepared to just… show up?
He’s risking not being there to hand her a water bottle when asked? Hold her hand when she’s told to push? Sit in the uncomfortable hospital chair?
Being a good dad doesn’t start the day the baby is born. It starts when you choose to show up for your pregnant partner in the weeks when her body is tired, her emotions are fried, and she needs support more than ever.
If the baby comes early, he won’t forgive himself.
There are some moments in life you can’t get a second shot at. This is one of them.
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