She’s ready to say “I Do” — but not to the groom’s mommy and daddy, too.
After swapping rings, the cherry on top of most holy matrimonies is a hot honeymoon holiday for the enamored newlyweds.
However, that sweet escape can quickly turn sour if the in-laws tag along, so fears one freaked-out bride-to-be.
“We’re getting married in [November] on [a] property that my [fiancé], his sister and their parents own together,” said the distressed damsel, 22, to Reddit’s anonymous “Am I The A—hole” community.
“Everyone is leaving the day after the wedding so we can honeymoon for a week there,” she added. “That is, everyone except his parents.”
While the Gen Z admittedly “loves” her future mother- and father-in-law — who live on the 40-acre property she and the groom, 24, also call home — she’s not too keen on them cramping her style during their post-vows vacation.
Her objection isn’t rooted in bratty bridezilla behavior. Instead, it’s all about setting boundaries.
Unfortunately for young couples tying the knot, Gen X and Baby Boomer parents are now horning in on their honeymoon fun en masse. It’s a phenomenon that’s rising as a cringy, controversial travel trend.
And although having elderly chaperones on a romantic getaway might not be as egregious as a “toxic” mother-of-the-groom who wears an all-white gown on her son’s big day, or one who splashes the bride with red paint, it’s still being deemed a “red flag” by whistleblowers online.
“If [the 22-year-old] marries this guy, she will spend her entire life either with her in-laws, or arguing with her ‘husband’ about her in-laws. He isn’t mature enough to be married as he is still his parents’ child,” cautioned a concerned commenter, regarding the groom’s unwillingness to disinvite his folks to the honeymoon.
In her digital cry for help, the beleaguered bride explained, “When I found out they were planning on staying, I told my [fiancé] I didn’t want them there.”
“He said it wasn’t a big deal. I told him it was weird and I wanted it to just be us,” she continued.
“I said he needs to tell his parents to leave at the same time everyone else does,” said the Zoomer. “He told me no since his parents are part owners (even though his sister is leaving with everyone else).”
The stalemate left the nearly-wed feeling “invalidated,” prompting her to wonder if “I crossed a line by telling him he needs to set boundaries with his parents.”
But social media supporters assured the heartbroken belle that her would-be Prince Charming is being childish.
“This is a red flag [there] will always be 2 extras in your marriage and you will NEVER be a COUPLE,” warned a Redditor. “Don’t do this to yourself! Life is way too short.”
“Why does HE want his parents on his honeymoon?,” questioned a skeptic. “If your partner doesn’t want to be alone with you on your honeymoon, they just aren’t that into you.”
And a no-nonsense critic encouraged the bride to surprise her guy with a spicy ultimatum, suggesting she say, “I plan on us having sex three times a day for the entire week. Would you rather do that or have your parents there?”
“Because you can’t have both.”
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